Do You Like Being a Manager, But Avoid “Managing”?

These 4 Steps will Get You Moving in Your Management Career

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Whether you are working alongside your direct reports or viewing them through a window from your corner office, managing people can be challenging as a manager .  After all, people are messy.  They don’t come in neat little packages tied up with pretty ribbons.  They come with perspectives, attitudes, histories, talents and stumbling blocks.

Why are you avoiding the “management” part?

As a manager, you are supposed to be in contact with your direct reports on a regular basis, but what if you find yourself avoiding those connections?   A manager that avoids managing? Stranger things have happened.

You may be avoiding a difficult conversation with an employee who is not performing well.  Or, you may have someone on your staff who is brilliant and creative but completely abrasive.  You love what he does for the company but would rather do a “Starbucks run” for the entire department than rub elbows with his prickly skin.




Perhaps you are a bit of a perfectionist?  If this is the case, you may avoid delegating some of the items on your to-do list.  You may have convinced yourself it is better to do it all than fix the mistakes your employees are bound to make.

In the short run, avoidance feels like a relaxing hot bath.  Relief and relaxation abound as you sit at your desk NOT talking to your employees.  But if you begin to take that relaxing bath every day, you will soon find yourself underwater – drowning in department dis-function, team dissatisfaction and too much work.

Here are 4 Steps to Get You Out of the Tub and Moving in the Right Direction:

  1. Ask Questions that evoke new answers. Practice asking “what” questions instead of “why” questions.  Practice asking questions that are open such as “what do you think is the best way to move forward?” as opposed to closed questions like “Do you think we should extend the timeline or rush the project?”
  2. Take the pressure off yourself by listening. Find each of your direct reports and just listen.  Ask what they are working on and how they spent their weekend.  Find out if they have any new ideas or concerns about the company initiatives.  Ask short open questions and then stop talking and start listening.  Here’s why:  when people feel listened to, they feel respected which breeds loyalty.  And, you may learn something new that will benefit you.
  3. Share your weaknesses. Each person that you manage has strengths and weaknesses, including you.  Be transparent.  If you are not sure what to do or haven’t figured out the best solution, be honest about it and show how you are working through the problem.  Rather than losing respect, you will gain respect from those you are leading, managing and mentoring.
  4. Find something to appreciate about everybody.   I really mean that.  Go through your list of team members and identify something really terrific about each one and then let them know you appreciate them.   You may appreciate a great attitude that you notice each day, or a facility for problem solving on the fly.  True appreciation is one of the most powerful tools in your toolbox.  Use it often!

And here’s the good news; after a long hard day of communicating with your team, you get to go home and take a nice long relaxing bath – for real!

 

About Jamee Tenzer 4 Articles
Jamee Tenzer, CMQ Coaching, is an Executive and Life Coach, specializing in helping working women optimize their lives at work, home and play. She also works within organizations to streamline communication between co-workers and within teams.  In addition to serving as a Supervisor, Mentor and Trainer for the International Coach Academy from 2006 to 2015, she is also a trained mediator and the co-creator of three ICF Accredited courses for coaches; Deeper Conversations Coaching, Mentor Coach Certification and Real Coaching Sessions Unplugged. In May of 2012 she published her first Balance Your Work and Family Life with Less Stress and More Fun! A Coach Me Quick! Guide for Working Moms  Jamee is one of our 40-something contributors.